When my husband Bill and I were married, I couldn’t even imagine celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary . . . . it was so far away.
Then, around the time of our 20th anniversary, all hope for reaching the 50th died. Bill and I were separated. He stayed with our home and business in Georgia, along with another woman . . . and my three sons and I moved back to my hometown in Oklahoma. It was the most devastating time of my life. I had known many people who divorced and always felt bad about it and said a prayer for them. But I never understood the heart-wrenching pain people went through, and I vowed I would never take the news of another destroyed marriage lightly.
Bill was content in his new life; even went so far as to make an appointment with a lawyer to get a divorce. But I wasn’t ready to give up on my marriage. The next months were spent trying to build a new life for my kids and me, but it was also a time of tears, prayer, fasting, pouring over God’s Word, writing in my journal, and hanging on to God for dear life. He was my anchor.
During that time, God spoke to my heart one day and said, “Karen, one day you will have a testimony about all you’re going through, and you will share it with other hurting women.”
As always, God was right. He did so much for my family that it took writing a book to share it all.
God spoke three specific things to me during that time.
- TRUST ME!
- Leave Bill in my hands. LET ME CHANGE YOU!
- No matter what your husband says or does, treat him with kindness. It will be hard. You can’t do it on your own, so let Me do it through you.
God took care of my boys and me in ways I couldn’t have imagined during that time. And, in the end, He answered all my prayers. He not only put our family back together, but He healed our marriage and transformed it into the relationship I had always dreamed of! God can do so much more than we ask or even imagine.
Bill and I renewed our vows right before our 21st anniversary. And today, we celebrate our 50th anniversary! All praise be to God!
The thing that I want to share about our experience is that God’s Word and His methods can work in any bad situation in our lives. The three things He spoke to my heart can be applied to any situation.
1. Trust Him! 2. Leave people and situations in His hands and let Him change you. 3. No matter how others treat you, respond with kindness.
That last one was the hardest for me, because sometimes I just wanted to lash out in anger when unkind things were said. But after we were back together, I heard Bill tell a friend that one of the things that drew him back to me was that I was just so sweet to him no matter what he said or did. God knew exactly what I needed to do! To God be the glory for all He did for us!
Whatever you need, seek Him . . . trust Him. God is always there for us! He knows just what to do to help us in our situations.
“Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” – Jeremiah 29:12-13